Just turned 27 and still single AF. It’s so hard not to get depressed about it when everyone around me is getting married and the clock is working against me 😔
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Just turned 27 and still single AF. It’s so hard not to get depressed about it when everyone around me is getting married and the clock is working against me 😔
Everyone offers advice and here is mine....some perspective from a divorced guy in his early 50s. I think marraige is a wonderful institution and long term intimacy and companionship are important. When I was in my early 30s, I already thought the same thing. My friends were already married and starting families and I felt increasing self imposed pressure to do the same. This anxiousness and self imposed pressure caused me to make poor decisions in an effort to find my wife. I was so worried about getting married and having kids, because everyone else was and because I was getting older, that I rationalized how special my girlfriend was and that I decided to propose. I convinced myself she was the one (because the alternative was to keep dating or move on...either way it wasnt getting married and wasnt achieving the American dream). I made an awful choice. We were not compatible long term. The signs were all there and my family and friends all saw it. They even tried to tell me but I was blind and stubborn and i was on my mission to get married and have kids. Moral of my story....I completely understand worrying about being single and worrying about getting older and not being married and not having kids (and I'm a guy with biology concerns). But please please please dont allow that to rush things or cloud judgment. I have found happiness being single this stage in life. If I meet a wonderful woman and I fall in love that a great. But I will never make choices for the wrong reasons again. I will not rush and I will not rationalize just so that I can be in a relationship. I hope this story helps as you find your happiness, whether in a relationship or single. Great to put yourself out there but please make smart choices for your sake and the sake of others.
SA2, asking for a friend? 😁
Ayyy 32 here checking in
Once I hit 28, I decided that I was only “dating with a purpose”, meaning I would only date guys that I could see myself marrying. He needed to be marry-able or I wouldn’t waste my time and as soon as I figured out I didn’t want to marry him, I moved on. I went on dating apps and ended up meeting my husband within a year. We married after dating for a few years but I knew within a few months of dating that I’d spend my life with him. The key is not to waste time once you figure out someone isn’t a fit.
As a 36 year in old in the same boat as you, all I can say is, if you really want a relationship, to get married, have kids, etc go hard at it because before you know it 5 years will have passed and you’ll still be where you are today.
The clock will always be ticking get out there and grab some butts
About to turn 30, and a female, and single as you can be. Honestly, I’ve given up and am just living my life. If someone wants to come into my life, so be it. But beyond that, I’m tired of worrying about it.
All I want to say is try not to solely focus on the end result of marriage as some "fixer" for what your life is like now and do enjoy your time now as a young woman (not a euphemism for dating around, just actually enjoy life). I'm 28 and not in a relationship and I'm not worrying.
I’ve been on dating apps but haven’t really connected with anyone I went on a date with. Still have it too
I plan on being a dink forever (duel income no kids). Met my gf on tinder. Tbh, it all depends on timing of wether or not they are ready for a relationship. Going on 2+ years now.
Girl same..... I’m about to turn 27 this year. Thinking about going on dating apps.
Prioritize what's important to you
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a19567270/average-age-of-marriage
I’ve been on dating apps and the in-person chemistry is so different that I had way less luck than meeting guys in real life. Are you doing things that allows you to meet new people? And yes, this includes women. Most of my dates when I was dating resulted from meeting friends of friends at house parties, and most of those connections came from my female friends. And if you let your friends know you want to be set up, they’ll help create chances for you (and help you screen out the dramatic people haha).
Same age as SM1, but all I have to say is follow your feet. It’s better to lead your own path to your desire than to trick yourself into something you don’t want. And this is definitely a head game. Though people in my team wouldn’t think so, I’m an eternal optimist. The only way to lose is to stop playing - so keep walking and enjoy the journey!
Geez. You got at least another 10 years before you gotta worry about that - and that’s only if you want kids. Relax and get your freak on girl. Your 20s only last 10 years.
I don’t disagree. At all. But it isn’t an impossibility and it may be something that’s worth it to individuals who want to have the career established first. And while yes, egg quality declines, the actual risk increase is minimal and the cost trade off of establishing a career and having to pay for fertility hormones may be worth it.
23 and I have this worry. Hoping I could meet somebody in this career so they could understand my schedule and relate to me more.
I’m 27 and single for a long time... went on a lot of dates and have to say dating market is very harsh... one guy is over 35 and told his mindset still in his 20s, another one went on the date with me wearing a ring..:
Your username and comment indicate you are in NYC? Heard it’s rough over there. Even when I was visiting I overhead dating-related convos that made me want to puke. As a 32F, I have gone on dates with men 10 years older. Small sample size, but I just didn’t click with them like I did with men my own age. Plus, I found them to be either socially awkward or immature. I was alright with the former, but usually those types are pretty far into their career and just different stage...hard to connect....the relationship has a paternal element to it that bothers me...🤷🏻♀️
I’m a 32 yo single guy. Have been on online dates here and there but none have worked out recently for different reasons. Interested to hear from women’s perspectives why their online dates didn’t work out? Like you got catfished? Or what are some of the things you saw that you didn’t like
Because as soon as I say I’m not looking for a hook up, they stop responding. So. That pretty much ends it. The dates that I have been on, we just didn’t mesh or they definitely aren’t who they said they are (and that is why you always meet in a public place)
D3 - I haven't been on many online dates, but the few that I met just didn't click. There was more chemistry on texts than in person.
32 here, you'll be fine